If you've spent time online or consuming media at large, it's impossible to ignore that women are policed at every level. Everyone has something to say about how we live, from the obviously harmful offenders of beauty standards to the quietly destructive ones like criticizing our speech and interests. Unfortunately, we often unintentionally perpetuate this by internalizing what we think we should be doing or, worse, not doing something because we believe it'll reflect poorly on us. Trends, icks, cringe, and everything in between, if women are interested in it, someone has an opinion about it. For me, the past few years have been an ongoing practice of unlearning. Recognizing that opinions don't matter because nothing really matters. Not in a nihilistic way but in a rather liberating way. Because when everything is cringe, nothing is cringe. So do what you want
This is an interesting read. I've been thinking a lot about my hobbies recently and what kind of energy I bring into them. As a kid, I enjoyed a lot of hobbies by myself but I've noticed that as I grow older, I tend to share a lot more of what I'm doing with others.
I don't mind - the internet is a beautiful place to connect with and uplift each other! Still, discernment is very important and this post reminded me of that. I'm learning to be more intentional with my time, energy and creativity and I know my hobbies will thank me more for it too :)
i love sharing my hobbies with friends! i often swim in groups and i ride with my best friend in town on the weekends. but exactly what you said, being discerning is important and even if i had no one to do these hobbies with, i'd still be doing them. which brings me a lot of joy to know too <3
This is an interesting read. I've been thinking a lot about my hobbies recently and what kind of energy I bring into them. As a kid, I enjoyed a lot of hobbies by myself but I've noticed that as I grow older, I tend to share a lot more of what I'm doing with others.
I don't mind - the internet is a beautiful place to connect with and uplift each other! Still, discernment is very important and this post reminded me of that. I'm learning to be more intentional with my time, energy and creativity and I know my hobbies will thank me more for it too :)
i love sharing my hobbies with friends! i often swim in groups and i ride with my best friend in town on the weekends. but exactly what you said, being discerning is important and even if i had no one to do these hobbies with, i'd still be doing them. which brings me a lot of joy to know too <3
Exactly! I've always wanted to learn horseback riding too - one day :)
if you're ever in the uk we can ride together lol